The tragedy we pet owners all sign onto.
Our beloved Robert - known to readers of "Cleaving" and the Epilogue of "J&J" - died on Sunday. He was 11 or 12 years old, a dear, dear animal that we were lucky enough to share our lives with for 6 years. The very best dog that ever there was. Eric and I are destroyed, of course, and I've only now felt up to posting this.
Of course, losing an animal doesn't rank up there with King Lear on the tragedy scale, empirically speaking, but those of you out there who have gone through this know how excruciating it is. It's what we sign up for, though. He was our heart - and though we know we gave him a good life, and have no regrets on that score - the blank spot he's left is cold and immense.
All love, my big bear.
PS I ask out of respect to his sweetness that people maybe refrain from violent, nasty comments. I'll post again soon and those of you who get off on meanness and name calling can resume your activities. From this post, I will be removing them.
posted by Julie Powell at 9:38 AM
644 Comments:
i'm sorry for your loss. losing a beloved pet sucks. there really is no other way to put it.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Death is always very sad - even more so in instances such as this.
Very sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I not from where you speak, we lost our dog and it was and is a very hard time.
Take care and my thoughts are with you.
Cassandra
I am so very sorry. Losing a pet is the worst!
ohh I'm so sorry to hear about your doggie. Cyber *hug*
I am so sorry for your loss, Julie. Our "baby" Diamond died last month and my heart is still heavy as well. It does get a little easier as time goes by. I just imagine her playing catch with the angels which may seem silly to some but it helps me smile again.
oh we too are furry sorry for your loss we can feel the sadness. loves & licks
I'm sorry for your loss. No it might not be a big tradgey in the big picture, but it's a big tradgey in your world. I felt the same whay when my Tobie died at the age of 15 in June. I had him for 15 years, so I know how you feel. Just remember the good things, and know he will be there waiting for you at the pearly white gates.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved pet, Robert.
I have Buddy, my 14 year old toy poodle that I almost lost in December...and my world came crashing down...we are taking it one day at a time....
I have lost others as well....but I believe they will always be with you in some way...
There is no other love like the love of a pet.
You are in my thoughts....
Sending deepest smypathy.
Kary
I have always had animals in my life and it is heartbreaking when they have to go. I can't understand the sort of person who would be mean or cruel about a pet or the real grief experienced at the loss of one. I believe that a soul is the essence of love and as animals love more thoroughly than we do, I believe they go to heaven. Sorry if that's a bit weird or soppy.
I am sorry for your loss. Recently my kitty Cash was hunted down too and died. I know how you feel.
*hugs
I've just begun reading your blog. I'm so sorry for your lost. My dog is getting old and this reminder of the "tragedy we pet owners all sign onto" really struck me hard. All of my condolences.
Julie,
I have lost a pet dog who was like my child so I truly understand the terrible sense of loss and lonliness that you feel. Someone sent this poem to me those many years ago and I truly believe it gave me comfort. I hope it will for you too.
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...
I am so sorry! I saw you speak at WORD last night and you mentioned your guys passing. So sad. My warmest thoughts are with you.
Oh my...so sorry to hear about your loss...and even more so about all those naysayers :{
Time will not heal...just makes things more "bearable"...best wishes to you both, fondly, Roberta
I can only imagine the empty space your beloved pet has left. I hope you can move to the joy of all of your years together sooner rather than later. For now enjoy the bittersweetness that is the loss of someone you love unconditionally.
Julie,
my name is Marcela Ferrinha (diretodacozinha@ymail.com) and just like you I live to cook and follow recipes and cookbooks. Just watched your movie and I love it! Inspired me a lot. I'm pretty much like you because I always cook for my husband and he's my best crowd.
I also have a blog and I write for a newspaper in Brazil where I'm from ( if you would like to take a look would be a pleasure www.marceladiretodacozinha.blogspot.com and www.oestadorj.com.br) both are in portuguese and I'm trying to translate , but just like you , I have a full job and sometimes I really don't have enough time to do so. I wish my days had 100 hours , lol. I live here in USA, Park City , Utah.
I have one question: why Julia Child didn't like your blog? I really didn't understand that in the movie.
Anyway, I would love to hear from you if possible, please! And to keep talking with you sometimes, changing recipes, I don't know Brazilian recipes.
thank you and talk you soon.
And sorry for you loss... I lost my dog last year I was devasteded...
As anyone who has walked in your shoes knows, the loss of a beloved pet is not to be diminished. My dog and I used to run to a scenic viewpoint here in the Gorge....and now I visit it regularly to feel closer to him. It may sound cheesy....but it makes me feel better. I hope that you can find something that makes you feel closer to Robert too. Hang in there....it does get better.
I feel your pain. So sorry for your loss. I don't know if he suffered or not but you know is in no discomfort at this point and will forever be waiting for you to toss a ball again on the other side.
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I have a seven-year old terrier mix, and he's showing gray hairs these days. I know the time is coming, and it breaks my heart to imagine it. Know that you gave your lovely boy a good home, and he knew he was loved.
I'm so sorry~
Sorry for your loss. There are no words to express it any other way. Stay well.
There is nothing like loosing a pet. NOTHING! I am so sorry for your loss. Dogs are like family. Thinking of you!
It's so true- We bring home sweet little fur-gnomes and anticipate all the sweetness we will share with them, but in the back of your mind you know there is something to dread, also.
It's pretty brave to sign on to love knowing there will be loss someday.
hugs.
Aw, I'm so sorry. I've lost a few beloved pets in my time, too, and it does hurt. :(
A pet is a family member. Loosing one is a loss that is so hard. You feel cheated because even a healthy life span is too short. I have 4 pomeranians, 2 are suffering from health issues. I actually saw this, while at the Vet today. If in your sadness someone does not understand, then they are not a pet owner. When you are ready, there will be another little soul waiting for you to care for him or her.
I'm so sorry to hear about your doggie passing away. It is always tough.
Death of a pet is very hard. I've been there a couple of times. I wish there was something I could say to help ease the pain other than I am so sorry that you have to go through something like this.
So sorry... ~Sheri
Dear Julie,
I have watched the movie with my wife and my wife said that we need to cook, make happy your husband and she added and our kids too. I have lost my dog too and my wife too, we have even blogged about it. (link to blog if you want you can click on it and you can check our dog. You will not believe, I was digging up a hole in the ground to buried and he still had his eyes open, I was thinking how I will close his eyes and suddenly his eyes closed and I saw him on the clouds and I even photographed it, so life is just sometimes sad, but life is sometimes cheerful.
I can send you my spiritual poems if you want, however i am not a poet. :-) Thanks for your inspiration.
Best regards,
Peter Skuta, Virág Skuta, Balázs Péter Skuta, Réka Emma Skuta
I am so sorry for your loss. At our house, our wonderful dog is our furry child and I could not imagine the pain of losing her. So sorry!!!
I cried for you knowing I'll be going through this someday also (times 2.) Nothing hurts quite the same as the loss of a much-loved pet.
My sincere condolences.
I am so sorry for the loss of your family member. I don't call my dogs "dogs" but rather my children. They love you and always want to give you "puppy kisses" and they don't talk back. There will be a hole in your household and in your life for a while, and for the first part of that "while" the hole may seem huge.
Sending you a big hug to comfort you.
BTW, your movie has inspired my daughter, who does not know the first thing about cooking, to take a cooking class. Yeah. I was going to sign up for a culinary degree at the local college but the professor talked me out of it, said I was too old. I had just turned 50. So instead, I just cook for all my family members who ask me to make them things. I believe I will have to purchase the book Mastering the Arts of French Cooking and cook a few of the receipes.
Best of luck in the coming days. Take it one day at a time.
I am sorry for your loss. My little Pepper is 15 now and I know she won't be here forever and the first thing I do when I get up in the morning is make sure she's still breathing! I read once a saying that when we go to heaven, all our old pets will be there to greet us, and that gives me comfort..
they are a bitter sweet part of our lives. more sweet for sure.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Condolences from Julie and Grover, (the seven-toed cat).
so sorry for your loss. Pets are with us for such a short time, but give us a lifetime of love. Be well.
Julie, I'm so very sorry for your loss. We who have family pet members know what it is like to love them and like you said we also know they leave us when we love them the most. I lost my chow/sharpei named CHORIZO on October 14, 2007 and I miss her still so much every day. In fact this morning on my way to exercise, I drove down the street that last we took her to the vet for cremation.Tears always fall from my eyes when I think of her and the love she gave us. Her ashes are with us, so she will be with us always. I send your healing prayers Julie and hope that you find some comfort in remembering the good times with your family pet member.
My two cats, aged 15 and 16 passed away within a month of each other last year. They were my family and I completely understand both how heartbroken you must be and how silly it feels to admit it. I can't believe that you'd have to create a no-mean-remarks clause on your post!
I lasted about 3 days after last cat passed away before I went and picked up two kittens from the SPCA. It was awful to come home to an empty house, and even worse to grate cheese and not have someone begging at my feet!
At only 2 weeks old these kittens were thrown into a garbage bin and abandoned. They were found dehydrated and with broken bones - they needed love as much as I needed to love them.
The kittens will never replace my first two cats, but their tumbling antics always bring new and different smiles to my face.
All my sympathies.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Pets bring such joy to our lives. They fill spaces that humans cannot touch. I feel they were created to fill those spaces. Each and every pet who share our lives brings it's special personality and love. I read once that the reason pets live such short lives is that it gives us humans the chance to love many in our lifetime. I don't pretend to understand why they can't be with us longer but each and every pet I have owned has brought me an new understanding of love, loyalty and above all, to enjoy the little things in life. There is nothing better than a full bowl of kibble, a worn tennis ball and a loving lap to rest on. What more could we want out of life?
RIP Robert-you were loved beyond belief and you knew it.
I'm so sorry about Robert. We still miss our yellow lab, Sugar, who died 6 years ago. It's so unfair that they have such short life spans for how much love they give.
I'm doing a project about Julia Child can you tell me how you felt about never meeting Julia Child. I really like your blog also! If theres a way to answer before next Tuesday that's when it's due.
- Brianne,
P.S. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I am sorry, i to know how you feel after the dog i grew up with passed. it beats down alot in your life because some one your use to seeing is no longer there anymore. its an empty hole or void that nothing can fill, even if it is a tragic loss of a pet. The good thing is that you have memories of him. and he will live on in that way. Once again i am sorry for your loss, and i hope you feel better soon. Take care Ms. Powell.
There is nothing like losing a pet you love. Thoughts are with you.
I'm so sorry for your loss :(
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Ugh. It's like a big hole in your heart, and like there is a little less joy in the world. I know. It's so hard to see a long time companion who gives you unconditional love and joy... I'm so sorry to hear of your loss! :o( Take it easy. But be rest assured, you gave the best home, the most love, and shared wonderful memories that will be cherished always. Until you two meet again. Chin up. Your beloved is thinking warm thoughts about you from above. And waiting for the day you two are reunited.
Oh I am sooo sorry for the loss of your Sweet Dog. I know exactly how you feel and I have to say I lost my cat a few months ago and as crazy as this sounds it was one of the most painful things in my life. So, I am so sorry.
God turns clouds inside out to make fluffy beds for the dogs in Dog Heaven, and when they are tired from running and barking and eating ham-sandwich biscuits, the dogs find a cloud bed for sleeping. God watches over each one of them. And there are no bad dreams.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Oh NOO...We have had one dog and one cat pass away and it is gut wrentching, I know. I'm sorry for your loss. Don't think me a freak, but we had ours cremated and both are sitting on the top of our armoir. (o:
We are truly sorry for your loss. Mom said we are like her kids. So she knows EXACTLY how you feel
Benny & Lily
julie, i'm so sorry for you & eric. my golden retriever harry o died in my husband's arms 10/11/09-one of the worst days of our married lives. .... "then you cross Rainbow Bridge together." Rainbow Bridge, awesome poem, maybe you will some comfort from reading it. may you find peace & healing during this difficult time.
I am so sorry to hear about you sweet dog. My heart goes out to you as I had to experience that last year. Oh, it hurt so bad. I am glad to hear he had a very happy 6 years with your family
I just wrote a comment to you about losing your sweet pet and I put it under the wrong title...I was watching the movie Julie and Julia tonight while making supper and then I decided to check out your blog. I am so sorry you lost your doggie...as I explained in the other NYR area of your blog, we lost our precious Max to cancer in 2008. We had him 6 years too and he weighed 110 pounds when we got him. Some good is going to come of it though it does not ease our pain...I still cry when I think of him...praying for you and thinking of you as you go through this...it is not easy but he was very blessed to have you as family.
Joyce Glenn Wagster from SC
I just read Julie and Julia and loved it...googled you to see if you were still blogging and was so sorry to hear about Robert. I hate when dogs die...they are such sweet companions. My condolences.
Oh I am so sorry to hear about dog. I know you heart must be breaking. To me, the death of a beloved pet is up there with anyone else. I know I love my dogs like my own children. I don't have any kids so they are my children. I would be lost without them.
Big hugs to you
Joanne
Our sweet 13 year old "Lucy"(German Shorthair Pointer)is terminal. We are sadly and lovingly watching her deteriorate, only able to keep her comfortable. I'm in tears reading your blog and all the kind notes. I will draw comfort from these strangers when her time to leave us comes.
I just reached down and patted my pup in honor of your dog and in appreciation for loved, four legged darlings.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope there are liver snacks in Dog Heaven.
I'm sorry... We had to put our beloved cat, Io, to sleep two years ago, and I still cry when I think of him. He had such a wonderful personality; he was basically our first child.
My condolences to you both.
They say "all dogs go to heaven," right?
But you will certainly hear him walking around your place for a long time.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
New to your blog. So sorry about your Robert. Regardless of species, love is love. Losing someone you love is really hard. Thanks for the book (J&J). Caring thoughts to you and your husband.
I am sorry for your loss. The only comfort I can offer is that he knew you loved him and in the end that is all anyone - canine or human can hope for in this life.
I don't know why I randomly decided to find your blog. I, of course, saw the movie. It was very inspiring. I had stopped cooking, anything good that is, for my family. Life becomes so hectic, before you know it everything you eat comes from a bag or a frozen box. Yuck! I gather that your project was not about cooking, but about doing "something". We all need to feel we are doing "something", right? I was excited to find your blog, but after reading parts of it, I questioned whether I had found the right blog. To be honest, the language you use really disappointed me. I know, I know. You are thinking "who does this chick think she is", "don't read it then", "how judgmental". But honestly, would your story or blog be any less interesting without using Christ's name in that manner? Just felt the need to ask. Oh...I am very sorry about your dog. I love my dogs too.
sorry for your loss. . . . RIP
I'm sorry for just hearing about you and your story; julia and julia. I read your latest blog and remembered the cat i had from kindergarden till about 7th grade she was there when i thought nobody else was. now I have a dog and the thought of something happening to her is heart wenching.
Julie, over the years I've had several pets and seen them go from bouncing little furballs to old age and float away into their resting place. It's hard... because you think they'll be around forever. We have an akita, a gorgeous mass of black and white and playfulness, and we're not bracing for the worst since he's aging badly, mainly because he's such a bundle of love.
It's always best to remember the best our pets give us, which is laughter, love, and our own humanity.
So sorry for the loss. Pets become part of our families. I'm sure you will miss him.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
He was family. I am sorry for your loss.
My brother and sister-in-law have two young kids. They used to have a pet rabbit. It died. Death is confusing for kids because they live their lives in the present; they can at once know the rabbit died and still believe it will be around tomorrow.
My brother decided to use the moment to teach them about death by giving the rabbit a burial. He took his children, the rabbit in a shoe box, and a shovel to the back of the yard and dug a hole. Then he gave the kids a chance to say goodbye, which was right about the time his daughter grew impatient with the whole affair. She said with a sense of urgency "Do it, do it, just hurry up and bury it."
Those kids have had to cope with the death of their rabbit, their aunt and their grandfather. They're pretty resilient.
I hope the immense pain of the blank spot Robert left subsides and your and Eric's hearts are filled again with what can happen.
I'm so sorry! But seriously, what the hell kind of a sick bastard would leave nasty comments in response to a post that your beloved dog has passed away? Are people really such arseholes? If so, I send them thoughts of cyber evilness right back! Fuckers.
I was in bits when our cat died. My heart goes out to you.
I just saw the movie about your book and blog tonight....I received a copy as a member of SAG to screen for the SAG awards....I fell in love with the movie, your Julie/Julia proect/blog and you...which pointed me to your blog. I want to express my deepest condolences for your loss.
My heart goes out to you and your husband through this difficult time.
I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my chihuahua, Sue-Sue after 16 years and it was one of the hardest things to get through. My thoughts are with you and your husband.
How could people be mean to someone who lost a loved one? That's just sick -- I'm sorry that you had to worry about that ON TOP OF your grief at losing your "big bear."
My wife and I still notice the empty spot in our bed, but more with grins than sadness now, 3 years after losing our Daphne. "The grief now is part of the happiness then. That's the deal."
julie and eric, very sorry to hear this. it's heart wrenching, as only people owned by dogs might understand. they give us such uncluttered love don't they. making mince meat out of what humans provide each other.
a year ago, i lost my best friend, comet. i wrote a little post about him that might resonate with you. read it later. it's rainy day material.
again sorry to hear about your loss.
(http://cranelegspond.blogspot.com/2007/08/341-good-friend-dying.html)
I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is heartbreaking!
Julie, I'm sorry for your loss. Our pets bring us so much love and joy and when we lose them, it leaves such a hole in our hearts. I have been there. *hug*
I am so very sorry about Robert. Our pets are our children, and losing a child is about the worst thing that can happen to you.
I see someone posted "The Rainbow Bridge" for you. I cry every time I read that, but I hope and pray that it is true and our pets will be waiting for us someday.
I'm thinking of you.
My heart goes out to you.
My heart goes out to you and Eric. I had to put down my beloved 19 year old cat who was born on my bedroom floor and died in my hands 19 years later. I know how difficult it is. The sense of loss is overwhelming. But the joy they brought us with their presence in our lives will never die. Bless you, dear ones.
I am so so very sorry for your loss. We've lost pet members of our family too.
Our heartfelt condolences to you and Eric.
Hi Julie. I've started reading your blog (The Julie/Julia project) from the very beginning after I recently saw the movie. I was so inspired, I tried making coq au vin last night after getting off work. You think I would have listened to your blogs and realized that French food takes a hell of a long time. As I was staring at my liquid trying to boil down and drinking the rest of the wine that wasn't used in the chicken AND reeling from absolute famine... I thought, "I cannot believe she did this almost every day for a year." I gained a huge amount of respect for you last night... just thought I'd share this with you and perhaps knowing you're still inspiring more servantless cooks in America will help you smile, even just for a moment, through your difficult time right now =)
All the best,
Ria
I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy losing a pet. They are a big part of a family.
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So sorry for your loss.
And you are right...we sign up for the heartbreak. My partner and I have a 13 year old beagle who is in great shape for her age but we look at each other knowingly when she can't make the leap onto the couch or bed from time to time.
Oh Julie...so sorry to hear of your loss. Dogs leave paw prints on our hearts that remain a life long memory. Sending you hugs!
Julie,
Sorry to hear about your beloved puppy. No matter what they are a part of our family. Thinking of you during this tough time.
Hugs
Terri
I'm yet another new reader wandering over. My individual taxation class was talking about your movie and blogging (and the tax implications), and after getting thoroughly frustrated with classmates (ugh no one understands blogging! haha!), wandered over here instead of listening to the lecture.
I'm excited to read back through your archives and see how accurately the movie portrayed the real life.
So sad to hear about your dog. It's never easy. My childhood dog died at age 15 when I was eighteen and I was heartbroken. Even more sad that you're having to deal with mean commenters. Ugh internet trolls have to ruin everything. Hope it doesn't get you down too much; you've accomplished quite a lot.
I have two dogs that I absolutely love and am thankful for every day. They are 9 and 12 years old...I worry. I am so sorry for your loss. I can only start to imagine how sad you must be. Unconditional love is hard to come by. Take care.
hi julie, i'm sorry for your pets lost, but i'm not here today for that, you know i live in mexico, and i've never heard about you in my life, i'm very young only 23 so what can i know about life, i didn't know anything about you until today, i study gastronomy i'm a student in this year i will finish my carreer, and here in mexico today was your movie premier, it has been the must beautiful story i've ever seen, i cried almost the whole movie i was starting to lost passion in my life and thanks to you i have a new motivation, thank you for cooking and thank you for sharing who you are, i hope to buy your book in this week, and again thank you so much
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I've been there a few times and it never gets any easier. It sucks. I am so sorry and send you hope for healing across cyberspace.
i'm so very sorry you lost your boy.
I'm so sorry. I am also a huge animal lover and want to become a vet in the future. Times will be tough, but remember the good years you've spent with him.
sorry for your loss Julie I know how you feel been there a few times.
I carry a photo of my 2 sons holding my 2 dogs & tell people that I have 4 children. Because I do. I adore my dogs, nearly as much as my boys, but have lost many animals through the years. It never gets easier & there is never a replacement. They are just unique members of our family. My sympathies to you and best wishes for sustenance & comfort through so many lovely memories of time together.
JHS
Colloquium
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Writing My Life
I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is losing a member of the family. Deepest sympathies.
So sorry for your loss. Pets truly are family members, aren't they?
Very, very sorry. Words don't help.
I am so sorry, our beloved Sara died this past weekend, she was 9, a goldie and it is like losing a child.. My prayers go out to you///
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I am sure there is a big ole hole in your heart. Life and loving takes us thru many emotions for sure.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved animal companion. They weave their ways into our hearts, our daily lives, our chaos; and are always a spark of joy amidst it all. I cannot ease your grief, but I do understand how loss overwhelms and seeths. Time heals all....best of wishes.
I never knew what it felt like when lossing a pet. We had a pet parrot named "Pancho". It really was my mom's pet but I ended up loving him/her also. We never had a dna done to know it's gender. Pancho was a funny little parrot. He would argue with me when I would reprimand him or mimic my laugh when I would laugh. What happen was one day a labor guy came to finish my mother's kitchen sink and since Pancho was not into knowing him he flew away. We would let Pancho lose in the house. He was well behave in top of his cage the only time he would fly around the house was when people that he didn't know would come in. But it was very very sad when he flew away. My parents and I would walk around the block screaming his name out to see if he would come back which he never did. Took me more than a month not to be sad anymore. But their are times that I think of him.
I am very sorry for your loss. It's never easy losing a dog.
So sorry for your loss! My daughter and I just finished watching your movie~ we loved it, you're an inspiration to never give up!! You're in our thoughts during this difficult time!!
Julie, I know how it feels when your dog means so much to you. Tommy was a 100-lb, 14 year-old, love-of-my-life when my husband and I lost him to sudden illness exactly 2 years ago. I've experienced a lot of death, really, but his was different. He was in my heart in a unique way. He was just so good and so true.
So, I send my heartfelt condolences to you and your husband. I hope every memory makes you smile...and remember that Robert was given just a few years to spend on this earth; who better to have cared for him than you?
I am new to your site. I just finished J&J (it was the first book I downloaded to my new barnes&noble nook - love it) and had also just read Julia's "My Life in France." I enjoyed your writing and your story so much - thanks! I have been cooking for forty of my 50 years and had gone through just about every phase possible - or so I thought...now I will embark on a new one with you and Julia to guide me.
Julie - Robert really was a great dog! So sweet and lovable.-- (Just finished Cleaving.) As so many have said before me, losing a loved one is so very difficult.
I am so sorry about your Robert. As much as we love them and as much as they give back to us, it is a heartbreaking time when your pet dies. Grieve for a bit, but get another dog soon. You will not regret it and Robert will understand completely.r
Just saw the movie for the first time tonight. You are going to be for me what Julia was for you. As for the loss of your canine family member, I am so sorry. It is always hard to lose a member of the family, no matter the species.
I am so sorry you lost him, yet know that as long as you remember him in your way, he will always live on and be with you. Thank you for the picture. Only others who are pet lovers understand!
I'm terribly sorry for your loss.
I'm also terribly sorry that people are assholes and say nasty things. Fuck 'em. And as some dance teacher in a really cheesy Jennifer Aniston film once said "Head up, young person".
Sorry about you loss. Sorry that people write nasty comments. Thank you for sharing, everything.
I can't imagine... So sorry for your loss.. 'til you meet again!
My husband is cooking "concombres au beurre", which we are eating out of the dish, dare I say "yum"?, when I decided to google you to see where the J&J project has gone. We were saddened to see the comment on your loss of Robert. We lost our Cooper (120lb lab)to brain cancer this year, and understand how this leaves a hole in your heart. I love the Rainbow Bridge. It gives me hope. :-) We are fans, have seen the movie at least 4 times, bought the books by both you and Julie, and my husband (who is the cook) has, of course, roasted a chicken!
As a note, as a pet owner, we have adopted a 6 year old lab and the enrichment begins again.
Our best to you. e&a
i just saw your movie this evening and well my life in queens it was
i even had the orange cat Henry and wow I cried when he was gone
so my sister, we all have tears in our eyes, let them go
I'm so sorry for your loss Julie and Eric. I can only imagine the depth of what you are feeling. People either "get" how dogs impact us or they don't. For me, getting a dog has changed how I view the world. The night I saw "Julie and Julia" I came home and started my own blog www.lessonsfromgus.wordpress.com It is a collection of essays about life wisdom for people, inspired by my own dog Gus. I have learned so much about myself and about how to live my life by watching my dog and how he approaches the world around him. They really are smart, aren't they?
My new year's resolution this year is: eat, play, love! Wishing you happiness, Janet
julie and eric-
i'm so sorry for your loss. losing a pet is a horrible feeling. the book Dog Heaven is great though...check it out. <3
Sad news, Julia
My wife's family in Angarsk, Russia has lose a dog on the same day too
Mikhail Rybalko:(
So sorry for you loss. Our pets become our children and any loss is hard. Hang in there and you are in our thoughts and prayers.
OMG! People really have nasty things to say about or to you? That sucks! I have never followed a blog, but since seeing J&J, I had to check up on you. So very sorry about your loss. So very happy for your success. Keep going! To hell with the mean posters!
Hi !!
I'm truly sorry ...i know how you should be feeling right now.
When i was younger, maybe around 6 or 7 year old (sorry my english still is bad) i lost my little green bird...and i pray the lord to take him to the heaven for dear pets...am not kidding...
So from the bottom of my heart...don't worry he is in better place full of love...and funny things.
My most sincere sorry,
Priscila Rodriguez
A new fan... i just (literaly) saw your movie. It's amazing!!
I believe that there is a special place in heaven for our pets. And,we may get to see them again. This is one of the many things I am looking forward to. I am sorry about your loss. I send you hugs.
My dog is my baby. We lost one of our dogs a few months ago, too. I can't remember any time in my life I cried as hard as the day I realized she wouldn't make it. (Veterinarian oversight in an injection he gave her caused her to die pretty suddenly).
We still have Dax. If not for my husband, he'd be the love of my life. :-) I try not to pretend that he'll live forever...it's hard to even think about his day.
I heard a story once about a vet who put down a family's dog. They were all pondering afterwards why it is that dogs have to die so much sooner than humans. The little boy of the family spoke up and said that he always thought that we were put on this earth to love each other and to be kind to everyone; and since dogs learn how to do that so quickly, they don't have to stay as long.
Anyway, remember him well. There are few things in life as enriching to our souls as a faithful dog.
I am new to this blog thing, but have wanted to start my own for sometime, I just finished watching Julie & Julia and was once again inspired to blog. So I decided to look you up and read more about you. Firstly I would like to say that I am sorry for your loss. I recently have lost two family members this past week, and all those deaths in Haiti, seems this year has decided to give us a jolt or a kick in our ass as one would say.
I am a cook as they would call an uneducated in the formal sense person that cooks, haha. And I wanted to tell you that the movie is phenomenal and your story beyond that. Not only your joy of cooking, because I do love to cook, but I think I prefer to eat, as did Julia, but also to be loved and that is what your story inspired me on mostly...love.
I am sorry for your loss. We have just added a dog this July and he has brought alot of joy to our home. The movie has inspired me to cook even more. I am having a wine and dinner party for 20 and I am making all the food from scratch.
Wish me luck.
my sincere condolences. Over the years, I have lost pets as well and it is always heartbreaking.
I am sad to learn of the passing of your beloved pet. Owning an animal companion is a brave thing because you know that one day he/she will leave you. A pet will always love you no matter what and teaches us to be better human beings just because of that.
Julie,
I'm sorry to read about the passing of your dog and friend.
I remember how heart broken I was when I lost my dog.
Julie, I want you to know that you've inspired me to begin my own blog:
http://positivelivinginnyc.blogspot.com
In a world that spits out a constant stream of negative energy, it was my hope that by committing to a blog, I might be able to sustain a daily source of positive energy.
I wish you the best of everything that life has to offer. - madi
I am so sorry Julie. I have 3 dogs and I dread the inevitable. I love them more than anything! You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry Julie. I have 3 dogs and often think about the inevitable and how I will handle it. My heart breaks just thinking about it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh no! I am just now reading Julie & Julia...haven't gotten to the Epilogue yet. Sadness :( Losing a pet definitely ranks up there with any other tragedy - pets practically become family members! I hope that your memories of the good times you had with Robert help you through this.
My condolences. We had a similar situation, we got the best dog in the world (west coast) when he was 7 and we lost him at age 12. I still cry, 5 years later, when I look at his photos. His ashes reside in a small cedar box on one of our book shelves. We waited a year and got another yellow Lab, but we will always treasure our time with Jim.
Followed your JC blog for the last six months you were cooking and just saw the movie - I thought it was a great representation of both J and J - and am reading Cleaving. Best to you and to Eric.
Hi Julie, just saw this post. I've been trying to get over the loss of my special "Alice" since March. Just posted our new pup on my blog, http://ctutor1.blogspot.com or http://civanoforum.com It will get better I promise! Hugs, Mare and Maureen
Our beloved Browser, a ten year old chocolate Cocker, died in August. We still see him, hear him, feel him. Miss him so much. Go easy on yourselves.
Alan.
I am so sorry for your loss, losing a pet is so difficult.
Heaven = where all the dogs we have loved run to the door to meet us.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry to hear about your furry roommate going into the Light.
You all have to be devastated. It changes everything - that is how I felt anyway; it's different, but it will be OK. Then after a while you don't cry and can remember how blessed you were and not how sad you are... but you don't need me to tell you that, tho I did, sorry! :)
On a side note - I came here b/c everyone comes to my blog to see if you are divorced!! I'm at www.juliepoolie.blogspot.com - I made a entry dispelling the rumors.. if you need me to edit it, let me know.. best of luck to you, take care and bless your heart as it heals, julie ann
Not sure if anything other than time takes care of that ache. But my puppy, Charlie, and I are sending out positive thoughts to you both. Be well and hug each other tight.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's very hard time to go through when a animal dies. My friend has told me about her big sister's black lab named Felia who died 4 years ago form lime disease. I've never owned a dog but I do know what it is like to lose someone you love. I hope you make through this heartbreaking time, Julie. Hope Robert is still watching you from heaven, deepest wishes to you and your husband.
Sara
I hope this brings you some comfort! I'm sorry for your lost. I do not look forward to that day when the time comes for our puppy.
A Dog's Purpose, (from a 6-year-old)
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a
ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners,
Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very
attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.
I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the
family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to
perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it
would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure.
They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's
family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog
for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was
going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.
The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any
difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after
Belker's death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal
lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."
Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next
stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a
good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice,
right?" The six-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how
to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."
Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
You are in my heart and prayers. My husband and I have gone through this with a dog and two cats. I understand the great emptiness you feel in your home and heart.
Im so sorry about your loss. I love ur blog. Iwas so happy when Julie and Julia came out as a movie. I look up to you. Dont beleive me? check out my blog :))
again, sorry bout ur loss :(
Querida Julie:
Ayer vi tu pelicula y me acorde tanto de mi misma.
Yo era una ejecutiva de publicidad y Marketing que gracias a Dios estaba bien ubicada, pero al iniciar mi familia y casarme vine a vivir a este maravilloso pais, pero estaba tan asustada porque nunca habia cocinado. No sabia ni hacer arroz.
Pero mira... me encontre en la cocina un amor que no sabia que existia y cuando nacio mi primer hijo Ian me propuse hacerle yo su cake de su primer anio de vida, ahora tendo dos hijos y yo les he hecho los pasteles decorados cada cumpleanos y cada compromiso en la escuela yo cumplo llevando un cake.
Te felicito, creo que al final Julia pudo haber sentido un poco de temor o celos por su historia, pero no creo que te odiara talvez se asusto, lo lindo de esto es que tu te descubriste a ti misma.
I am writing in Spanish because I don’t have a lot time now, it’s late and for my kids is bed time… but next time I will be in English.
Claudia
Julie......Girlfriend, I am so so so so proud of you... You are the best writer ever.. and tonight , the Golden Globes.. well Meryl would have never won.. without you girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a pet - I wish they could live forever. Take comfort in knowing you gave him a good life and he is now waiting for you over the Rainbow Bridge.
{{{{{hugs}}}}
Hi, today i saw the wanderful movie Julie & julia,i wanted to write about it but i saw your loss.I'm very sorry for your loss.
take care
Ohhhhhh ,i'm very sorry.....
take care
I'm so sorry. I lost my childhood dog two years ago and now have a wonderful lab. It tears me up to think of losing him. It totally blows and sucks for that matter. Take care.
I'm so sorry. I have a 13 year old cat and my husband and I now have an 8 month old dog. We refuse to watch Marley & Me." And I disagree: losing your loved one is a King Lear tragedy, I don't care what species. Bless you.
I am so sorry. People do not understand that dogs/animals are part of the family, and when you lose one, it is like the death of a child. Prayers and all my sympathy.
Hi Julie...I watched THE movie yesterday! Great..... i felt as if I was there with you all along stumbling over the kitchen!
And today, I searched for your blog, and saw this post.. I am sorry for the loss! None can fill the space left except your love...
Take care - Thaamarai
I just watched Julie & Julia for the first time tonight. Inspired by Meryl Streep's speech at the Golden Globes, my husband ventured out into the Southern California rains and rented the film. If Julia was your inspiration, you are now mine.
I searched for your blog and found what might have been the last 4 posts of the Julie / Julia Project. One of them was the day you announced Robert's arrival. As a dog mom of four, I was so happy to see you had adopted this big, giant boy. I then searched further to see if I could read more about your life since the project ended, and ran across this page.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. In the past few years we've lost two cats and two dogs. It's never easy and - I swear - nothing is more painful. Just know that you gave Robert a GREAT life and he, in return, blessed your lives with his love. Animals are angels here on Earth. I truly believe that. All good. No bad. Just love and trust and all of those things we humans strive to be and uphold.
Thank you, again, for your inspiring story. You have sparked my torch and I plan on running with it. Where? Not sure yet. But I refuse to leave this Earth without discovering a little greatness of my own.
All the best to you. And, once again, sorry for your loss.
Julie, I'm so sorry for your loss!
When I was seven I got myself my first puppy, and it passed away within two weeks! Ends up that he had a disease that we didn't know about. It was heart-wrenching, and I know how you feel.... losing a pet is like losing a part of your family and, therefore, a piece of yourself!
Stay strong and good luck!
-Nina
http://pagefortheculturefreak.blogspot.com/
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm equally sorry that people still feel the need to post nasty comments here. I wish people would figure out that if you don't like something you read, go read something else. Don't let them get you down!
I am so sorry for your loss....
Hola Julie soy Fernanda desde ARGENTINA, vi la pelicula ayer, y la verdad es que me encanto tu vida. Seguramente no sera 100% verdad pero algo cerca de la realidad debe estar.
Me dieron ganas de cocinar o de hacer algo para olvidarme de que a veces estoy tan aburrida de no hacer nada. y de no sentirme util ya que paso mis horas sentadas frente a la computadora esperando que llegue mi marido por la noche.
Estoy en la busqueda de que hacer... pero ver la pelicula ayer fue un buen comienzo. Saludos!!!!
Dear Julie,
My daughter Alexis and I just finished watching your movie. I absolutely loved it. It really made a great day off even better. But now I am very hungry... My daughter, who is 11 years old, enjoyed your movie also and wanted me to google your name so we could leave you a message. So sorry to hear about your dog. Again, thanks for sharing your story that touched us in many ways. Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day!!!
I am so, so sorry for your loss. As a mommy to only fur-kids myself (you can read about my infertility battles on my blog if you wish. Unfortunately, infertility won), I can only imagine the heartache you are feeling right now. When you don't have children of your own, your pets become your children. Please rest assured that Robert is playing on the Rainbow Bridge, and that someday you will be reunited. Try to find peace in the fact that you gave him a wonderful, happy life and that he knew how much he was loved by you, and how special he was to you.
I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel and it's heartwrenching. Pets are the best of friends and losing one is just devastating. My deepest condolences.
We take them into our hearts no less than we would a child how could one feel any less when they leave us? It tugs at my heart to hear you are hurting with the loss of someone so intertwined in your heart and life.
My hugs and much kindness go out to you.
Laurie
We take them into our hearts no less than we would a child how could one feel any less when they leave us? It tugs at my heart to hear you are hurting with the loss of someone so intertwined in your heart and life.
My hugs and much kindness go out to you. Laurie
I don't have a dog, but I got v. attached to Robert the dog while reading "Cleaving". I'm sorry to hear of his passing, and my condolences to Eric and you.
He looks so precious. I only had my imagination to go on from your books but the picture simply tugs at my heart. I'm so sorry for your loss--my last German Shepherd from a "pack" of 4 died last year and I'm still not really over it. They are amazing animals (I know he's a mix, but still). I hope things improve for you and your husband with time.
Julie, I am so so sorry for losing your beloved bear. Grieving in a meaningful way will help ease the pain, a little, for now. Time will heal the pain and someday your bond with him will turn into lovely memories. I lost my Jerry (aka pumpkin, Scourge of the Sea Lab) in Nov, on my birthday, and it still hurts. Find a way to grieve (a nightly candle, Rainbow Bridge poem, talking to him even though he's not physically present) and keep engaged in regular life.
i know exactly how you feel. in 09 i lost 3 pets within 6 months
Julie,
I am so so sorry for your loss my heartfelt prayers are with you guys!
Julie I would like to say that it is hard to loose anyone or anything that you love and that gives back to us pleasure and joy.
Animals have a purpose in there life to fulfill just as we have.
I'm sure yours did a great job. Sorry for your loss but at the same time be happy that you where able to have the perfect pet just for you and yours -God Bless
Hey, I lost my, our cat
March 28, 2008 at 10:15 am. I know how much it sucks. He had been with us as long as we had been us. I feel your pain and my best to you.
So Sorry to hear about your loss. Just know Robert is in a better place and he is watching over you and Eric.
Hi Julie, how are you? My name is Daliena, I live in Sergipe-Brazil and I just came back from the movies. It was great seeing Julie and Julia. :D So the first thing I did was check your blog in the internet to see that is real! Honestly, I had never heard of Julia Child before .... despite living in a country influenced by USA culture, the "Mastering the art of French cooking" isn't so known (at least by me). Well, good luck with everything. if u like to answer me, my e-mail is daliena6@hotmail.com Bon apetit! :D
I'm so sorry. This is the biggest fear I have for my two boys, who've already been through SO MUCH. I die inside just thinking of their first experience with a loss of a pet-family member.
You have my deepest sympathy and heartfelt compassion. Keep loving though, don't let it wall you up. *hugs*
Im a dog owner and I cant even think about the idea of loosing my dear Ramses. For me he's the cinamon of my chocolat, whenever he gets sick i get crazy (crying) so i can imagine what you're been through now; all i can say its from the bottom of my heart: truly sorry for your lost, hope u get through it in time....
Im so sorry julie....
I just finished reading both your books in the past ten days and I loved when you talked about Robert. I lost my beloved Sandie five years ago and I was broken hearted. Shortly after I could not stand the emptiness and I got another dog. While he is not she, like individuals, they are all their own people. I am just so sorry for your loss.
Julie: your Robert looks like my Riley - I am so sorry for your loss - thank God he had you and Eric in his life.....
Julie: your Robert looks like my Riley - so very sorry for your loss - I have been there - it does suck....thank God he had you and Eric in his life....
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I am so VERY sorry, Julie. He was obviously a wonderful dog and clearly well loved. You're right: that's a part of the deal you strike when you bring a furry family member into your life, but knowing that doesn't make it one damn bit easier. My most sincere condolences to you and Eric.
My heart goes out to you & your husband !!..It hurts the most, when you step over them a week later..and they are not there :*(... (My son and I made the decision to have our beloved "tank" cremated. At the age of 17 and tattoos being the *thing* on his planet, He asked me if he could have a tattoo of Tanks paw print,on his chest. with the cremation ashes mixed in with the ink.. p.s.- unbelievable Total closure for the 17 year old after this experience!)
I have a nearly 14-year-old Aussie who is on his way out. I'm with you.
I feel your pain:( My brother just lost his pug a few years ago on New Years Eve. She was only about two and a half. I got a new puppy for my birthday and we are all so happy! Her name is Lilly.
I am so very sorry for your loss:(
“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” - Anatole France
By the way I commented on your earlier post. you should look at it.
*hug for your loss*
I am so sorry for your loss! It makes my heart hurt. We have 2 dogs & a cat and have felt the same pain, before. My thoughts are with you. Take care.
Hi there, so sorry for your loss. I had to have my golden retriever put down two years ago, one of the hardest things I've ever done. She was eleven.
I just stumbled upon this on the internet after seeing the movie a few weeks ago. I'm Tina, 31, (North Dakota) and just learning how to cook. I've started a fire with macaroni and cheese and accidentally deep fried a grilled cheese sandwich, screwing up has been memorable. But I managed Thanksgiving dinner and last week I made my first banana bread, which everyone loved!
Congratulations on the book, the movie, and the cooking...again very sorry about your dog, I hated my life without a dog and brought Finder home from the humane society a month after I lost my sweet Crimson. I still think of her often.
Hi there, so sorry for your loss. I had to have my golden retriever put down two years ago, one of the hardest things I've ever done. She was eleven.
I just stumbled upon this on the internet after seeing the movie a few weeks ago. I'm Tina, 31, (North Dakota) and just learning how to cook. I've started a fire with macaroni and cheese and accidentally deep fried a grilled cheese sandwich, screwing up has been memorable. But I managed Thanksgiving dinner and last week I made my first banana bread, which everyone loved!
Congratulations on the book, the movie, and the cooking...again very sorry about your dog, I hated my life without a dog and brought Finder home from the humane society a month after I lost my sweet Crimson. I still think of her often.
I'm am so sorry for your loss.
Right before Christmas, we had to put our beloved dog Sally to sleep.
I'm 16 and my parents got her for me when I was five. So it was incredibly difficult to even imagine life without her.
However, as silly as it may sound to some, I believe she is up in heaven probably playing fetch with Moses right now. And how can that not place a smile on your face.
Love and Happiness,
Kristen
Makes me miss my Marcus all over again. I know they are suppose to go before us, that is, after all, the natural order of things, but those eyes of unconditional love... we have so much to learn from our beloved pets.
From one doggie mom to another, I'm so sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful dog.
We recently put down our dog of 11 (give or take) years...on Christmas Eve to be exact. It's sad to hear that you too are now going through the quiet that ensues a dear friend leaving forever. I'm sure he had a lovely life.
It does rank up there with King Lear....
I am sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It really is the worst feeling, but at least you can be happy knowing you gave him a happy life and lots of love and joy!
You made a positive and loving influence in you dogs (pets) life. Everyday will get easier to deal with. Our pets are part of the family and when we lose one of them it's like losing family. My heart goes out to you.
I just watched your movie and really enjoyed it.
Is your original blog, that the movie was based on, still online? If so, how can I access it?
Thanks,
Tanya Boozer
Julie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my miniature dachshund, Tootsie several months ago and I still miss her every day. I never knew that such a little dog could leave such a big space she would leave in my heart. I pray your hearts heal and you can remember only the smiles.
Gigi
Julie,
As I sit in bed tonight listening to my husband snore and reading your blogs; I think of the animals that have touched my families lives through out the years. I have had several dogs and cats that have either passed because of age or I have had to find other homes for because of moves or I wasn't able to care for their needs. It never does get any easier on the time you experience what pet lovers go through when they are no longer there. The hurt will dule but you will always have the good times in your mind. You'll see a furry face or two over the years that will remind you of them and you will step back and think god I miss him. For that and your's and your huband's loss I am truly from the bottom of my heart sorry.
I also just finished watching your movie. I hated having to pause it to go to an appointment. As soon as I helped my son finish his homework and put him to bed I was able to finish it. Julie I want to thank you. This movie means so much to me. It has given me so many things to think about. I was excepted to Le Cordon Bleu in Pittsburg upon graduating High School. I had everything in place to go until I found out that I was expecting. My son was due in the middle of mid-terms. So I did the last thing I ever wanted to do at that time. I declined. You see I come from a family of pastry cooks. My Grandmother was the family's wedding cake maker and my Mother made her way from the bottom of a grocery store bakery food chain to be the manager and run it. I know nothing spectacular but they have also inspired a love of cooking in me. I did attended culinary school at a community college for a year and a half until i got injuryed at work and I missed mid-terms because of Doctors orders and brused ribs. I have never restarted. I have also thought about it but never gave it a chance. Oh, I went back to school and got a diploma as a Medical Secretary (my mother's idea of great work and no weekends) I can't blame her I was a single mother with no one to really watch him. I have been married for two years know and I create wonderful dishes and desserts for my husband. But I have always felt is it enough for me. I am currently unemployed and have no idea what to do. My brain has been floundering on what to do with myself. And that's when upon watching your movie it had really made me ask myself: if you love it that much to continue to think on it and always wanting to know more; is it worth giving up on it. So Julie Thank You Thank You Thank You for this wonderful gift that has given me a reason to find my desired path.
Melissa Martin
San Antonio, TX
Julie and Eric,
I am sorry for your loss.
You are good people and my heart goes out to you.
Bless you both.
M
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